Bemused.
There’s so much to say, but more is less.
We have a culture of assuming people who look well-to-do always have what they need to survive and do not need help. Worse, we assume that they’re joking or ‘whining’ when they ask for help.
I use ‘we’ because I may have done this in the past although I always assume every ask for help is genuine.
I like to call it the curse of having. I don’t have an exact explanation for the use of that phrase, but think of it as a situation where you’re accustomed to having something and you need help, but can’t get any because everyone thinks you’re joking and all that. It’s very tragic.
We tell people to speak up when they need help, but jest at them when they do. Interestingly, I do not find this surprising, as the world doesn’t care about you. As always, I liken humans to players in the grand maze called ‘life’ - there are so many open fields before you’re in a closed loop.
That’s that.
There’s a crop of people that I detest the most. Well, I detest a lot of people, and the list grows every day. However, people who toy with traffic hawkers are the most horrible. I have witnessed this a number of times over the last few months, and it’s so insane.
Today, I saw some folks who wanted to buy a pack of Gala sausage rolls, and while we sat in traffic for about ten minutes, it took them forever to scramble out the money for the item. No, they didn’t give him after the ten minutes, he ran after the car for. about 100 metres into the next traffic before they gave him the money. I think you must be insane for not making your mind up and stressing people who are pursuing a legal hard-earned living.
Yes, there are a million excuses but I think the honorable thing is to discharge the seller if there’s delay in finding the means of payment as opposed to being an idiot.
How do you, my reader, manage people (associates) who do not have a sense of urgency? I find myself bemused at people who are meant to be inclusive acting as though they’re not an integral part of something. I see this every day; at work, in communities, etc.
Recently, I’ve been managing so many operations and have had to interface with people of different kinds, and wow, humans.
There’s so much to say, but more is less.
I've experienced something similar to this; something exact even. I was in a bus, and saw this woman squeeze her payment into a ball and fling it nowhere in the direction of the hawker. The poor guy had to chase after his money. HIS money, because it was rightfully his.
The curse of having is definitely a thing, and though I'm nowhere near as affluent enough to have been damned with it, I've seen people around me struck by it. I think that some people don't mean anything by it. The image they have of an affluent person is usually superficial. They see the you on social media, the you that drives past in the car they could only hope to afford, going to restaurants they wouldn't be caught dreaming about, and doing things very far from their own reality. They almost dehumanize you in a way, and see you as above need.
For another group of people, they've internalized their hatred of you, and your 'class' of people. You see this mentality in how people expect the worst of the rich, attribute the personal boundaries you set after they pile request upon request on you as 'your true colours starting to show after money entered the picture' etc. In the case of this class of people, they hate that you have what they don't and the access that gives you. Especially when you were in similar circumstances before, your success is a mirror to the potential within themselves they either don't have, haven't realized or have lost. You make them feel shame just by existing, and everyone hates the taste of shame.