Re: A Couple Of Thoughts
One or two adjustments. A proven theory of learn, unlearn and relearn.
It’s almost a year since I started this substack. It’s October, and I’m yet to beat my debut: A couple of Thoughts.
In today’s edition, I am going to write about a couple of thoughts I have.
Man does not have to be an island.
In the first edition of A Couple of Thoughts, I had this paragraph:
“I personally believe life would be extremely stress-free if we stay on our own and do things of our own accord”,
Indeed, I had a powerful notion then that man should be an island. I essentially meant we could do things ourselves without necessarily being in touch with others or doing things with others.
A couple of my readers opposed these views then - I have now lived more experiences and see how man moves and makes more progress by not being an island. It’s incredible how we can learn, unlearn and relearn.
Moralism
Moralism is fundamentally backed by religion.
I have happened to see a couple of arguments on people’s choice of either being a moralist or nihilist. I entirely understand that moralism is fueled majorly by religion. If we’re sincere, our laws in today’s world are all affected by religious laws.
Maybe human decency comes into play in terms of moralism, but then again, the primary thought process and learning process structure are once again affected by religion. I don’t think that isn’t good, and it’s indeed an incredible feat and one reason we’re a bit stable in this world.
Over the past couple of months, I have seen people despise and chastise others for lack of decency and moralistic attitudes. Let’s learn not to impose our moral beliefs on people - I find it sickening. Primarily, I’m not one to conform to your standards or do things just because you feel it is correct.
I do not apologize. I take pride in personal satisfaction as long as I am well aware of the consequences.
Nihilism
According to a definition from Google: “the rejection of all religious and moral principles, in the belief that life is meaningless.”
I know a couple of people who are a nihilist. To an extent, I care less about moral principles once they don’t make any sense to me. I don’t think life is meaningless, anyway.
The world is viewed most times through religious lenses. The practice of Nihilists is seen as forbidden and all. What happened to freedom?
You see, I care less about your jurisdictions. As long as you know the consequences of your actions, I shall leave you to do your thing. Indeed, some will say it is unfair not to try to caution the person to do the right thing but again, what you believe, or a couple of people believe an action to be wrong doesn’t mean it’s wrong. Likewise, it doesn’t mean it’s correct too.
Moralism vs. Nihilism
I practice Abdulism, and I do whatever I feel is right. Let people practice what they want as long as they’re fully aware. Nothing beats being intentional.
People
My view on people hasn’t changed a lot. I now have a few more acquaintances, but that’s all. I still limit my interactions to the Homo Sapiens species - it’s good for my overall wellbeing.
Confidence
Growing up, I lacked confidence because I had a timid nature. I can barely maintain eye contact during a conversation, even up until I write this paragraph.
It’s interesting how I can measure my level of confidence increase as I age. I can now confidently tell X and Y about I and J.
I think the primary area where my confidence has improved is in terms of expressing emotions and all. I had a very crazy moment where my confidence was shit earlier this year - I had failed to express myself, and indeed, it was funny.
I confidently tell my woman about things because I know it’s something I can and will do. She likes it; I like it too.
I have also grown my confidence in the academic part. I am now writing a book for PacktPub. It takes a lot of self-confidence to do that - yes, if you don’t believe in yourself, no one will. I write this with my default straight face.
Emotions
Sure, I am now learning to love and be loved properly. It feels exciting - is this what all of you in relationships enjoy?
It’s warm. I think I had craved to be genuinely loved for a while. I resorted to controlling my emotions for the more significant part of my teenage years to manage expectations and learn to feel less.
Forget the hard guy and girl people like to potray. I’d like to tell you, my reader, that feeling loved provides warmth. Except you’re in a toxic relationship, then you’ll agree that being in love and getting a reciprocated value is essential.
Concept of Love
My concept of love hasn’t changed. I now have someone who loves me genuinely, and I can reciprocate the same. It took a couple of adjusting on my side, so I didn’t throw the wrong signal.
Like I mentioned in the original post, “I’ve always been a sweet lover. I don’t hide it too; it’s pointless and quite cowardly sha.”
I understand that you might not necessarily get the love you expect from someone. It’s okay to move on and find where your feelings will be appreciated and reciprocated. Nothing beats mutuality and equal energy.
Although Mudia, in one of our conversations, doesn’t believe in equal energy, I strongly encourage you to find where your feelings are taken into considerations.
On Advice
I’d like to reiterate that unless advice is sought, you should keep it to yourself. I understand that there can be situations where you’ll need to offer someone advice, but how do you do that? That’s your assignment.
“Advices are someone else’s opinions of the subject in view.” - Abdulazeez.
Extras
I have now gotten new books for my library. I am investing majorly in books related to Psychology. I am a huge fan of psychology - I have learned to be smarter with that.
Sigmund Freud likes to emphasize how the majority of our actions are tied to the Libido. It’s interesting because I agree to some extent.
It’s the 20th of October, sigh. May the souls of the departed as a result of the 20/10 event rest in peace.